OkCupid’s hypocrite CEO Sam Yagan admits he donated to the ‘enemy’ — because it benefited him

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It was only a week ago that Mozilla’s Brendan Eich was forced to step down as CEO of the company he co-founded, in part because he once held the same view on gay marriage that pre-2012 election President Obama did, and in part because of a self-righteous smear campaign orchestrated by OkCupid’s data broker CEO Sam Yagan.

Mr. Yagan slimed Brendan Eich as an “enemy” of love a human decency shortly after after it was revealed that OkCupid secretly collects users’ personal information and sells it to the highest bidder. Some of us wondered if the whole thing wasn’t just a self-serving attempt to get some good press after countless OkCupid users and potential customers found out that the company operates more like the NSA than a dating service on many levels.

We now have an answer.

OKCupid, the online dating site that took Mozilla’s CEO to task for a donation to a campaign to ban same-sex marriage in California, is now under fire for its own CEO essentially doing the same.

OKCupid CEO and co-founder Sam Yagan in 2004 gave $500 to Rep. Chris Cannon’s campaign, despite the fact the lawmaker, during his tenure from 1997 to 2009, voted for a constitutional amendment that would have banned same-sex marriage, Mother Jones reported.

Mr. Cannon also voted against a measure that would have added sexual orientation to the federal rules against job discrimination, as well as voting to outlaw adoptions by gay couples.

Square that news with OkCupid’s personal attack on Mr. Eich:

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Now read the statement Mr. Yagan released after his own political donation to the “enemy” became known.

“A decade ago, I made a contribution to Representative Chris Cannon because he was the ranking Republican on the House subcommittee that oversaw the Internet and Intellectual Property, matters important to my business and our industry.  I accept responsibility for not knowing where he stood on gay rights in particular; I unequivocally support marriage equality and I would not make that contribution again today.  However, a contribution made to a candidate with views on hundreds of issues has no equivalence to a contribution supporting Prop. 8, a single issue that has no purpose other than to affirmatively prohibit gay marriage, which I believe is a basic civil right.” — Sam Yagan, hypocrite and CEO of OkCupid.

So bringing “all people” together is of utmost concern to Mr. Yagan, and yet he didn’t care enough to look into the stance on gay marriage of the politician he was going to donate to? Mr. Yagan labels men like Brendan Eich and “enemy,” whom he wishes “nothing but failure” for, because of his stance on gay marriage — and yet he now tries to say with a straight face that he it just sorta-kinda slipped by him that Rep. Cannon was a vehement opponent of gay marriage?

Mr. Yagan isn’t “accepting responsibility” for anything, because if he were he would apply the standard he used against Mr. Eich and step down as CEO. Mr. Yagan hasn’t accepted responsibility — he released a statement and hopes that the fetid stench of his hypocrisy will all disappear. He voted for a Republican when it would put cash in his pocket and he voted for President Barack “I believe that marriage is the union between a man and a woman” Obama when it was financially beneficial.

By Mr. Yagan’s own definition, he is an “enemy” of decent people and someone who deserves “nothing but failure.”

Personally, I do not wish Mr. Yagan failure. Instead, I wish that that all the people who blindly believed that his campaign to oust Mr. Eich as CEO of Mozilla was sincere will now think twice before they declare “enemies” on complex social issues. I wish that more people become aware that OkCupid harvests its users’ most intimate personal information and sells it to anyone with deep pockets — including those who Mr. Yagan would define as the gay and lesbian community’s “enemy” if it would give him good press.

And with that, I leave you with the ’60 Minutes’ story on data brokers like OkCupid, which are “okay” letting the world know about your medical history, your religion, politics and sexual proclivities if the price is right.

Related: OkCupid: Brendan Eich is the ‘enemy,’ so ignore the fact we sell your personal info to the highest bidder

Aziz Ansari: I don’t like gay marriage opponents, but I love racist jokes about black men

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Aziz Ansari is a successful stand-up comedian. There is no debating that. He’s had a great run on Parks and Recreation, he’s met President Obama and he is big enough to let it all go to his head and make a fool out of himself when he tries to lecture his audience on social issues. He’s pumped himself up with so much self-righteousness that he doesn’t even see how bizarre it is to tout his progressive credentials in tandem with racist jokes about black males and a bit that makes light of child molestation.

Take Aziz’s latest standup routine: ‘Aziz Ansari: Buried Alive.’ If you believe that the lifelong union of a man and a woman — with the implied purpose of having children together and raising them in a healthy loving family — should be recognized as an essential building block of any civil society, then Aziz Ansari thinks you’re a “hateful” person.

This is another thing that baffles me about people who are opposed to gay marriage, you know. Here these people, they found someone to say “yes,” to this totally insane thing and then some other person is gonna be like “no, it’s weird. I just … I just think it’s weird.” It’s pretty much the only argument at this point, really. I don’t see how you can really be opposed to gay marriage at this point. Like, you know you’re on the losing side. There’s no way it’s not gonna to go through. All the demographics that are really opposed to gay marriage — they’re all going to be dead soon. … But seriously, how do you not know you’re on the losing team at this point? … That whole Chick-Fil-A situation? Whew! That was quite a conundrum for me. ‘Cause you know, obviously I’m very pro gay-marriage, but I’m also very pro-delicious chicken sandwich.  It’s like, “Uh! What do you do?!”

I stopped eating Chick-Fil-A. I’m never going to eat Chick-Fil-A. I don’t eat it anymore. … I was so jealous of homophobic people. Man, what a delicious way to support your hateful cause.

What is more hateful: Believing in a definition of marriage that for all intents and purposes excludes gay people because of their biological limitations, or Aziz Ansari perpetuating gay stereotypes by doing a bit on the gay hookup mobile app called Grindr?

Straight people are so pathetic. “Can I take you out for a drink sometime? Or maybe we can get dinner or something? I don’t know.” Gay dudes are like, “I  wanna get my dick sucked and there he is. Done.” I really think [Grindr] might be the most incredible technology that’s come out in my lifetime. For real. I don’t even know how you’d even explain that concept to someone a few generations ago. … Show someone an iPhone … [If] you’re interested in putting your penis inside another man — that dude is down.”

What is more hateful: Believing in a definition of marriage that for all intents and purposes excludes gay people because of their biological limitations, or Aziz Ansari proudly doing a bit that perpetuates the idea that black men are all a bunch of morons? Somewhere in space and time the souls of racist practitioners of Phrenology are having a good laugh at Ansari’s black jokes.

I feel bad making broad generalizations about men and women like that, but … I’m pretty confident. To me it’s like saying black dudes are blown away by magic tricks. Stereotypes are fucked up, but that one’s on point. If anyone has footage of a black dude seeing a magic trick and not being blown away, show it to me. I’ll never say that again. But until I see that footage, that’s my favorite racial stereotype ever. That’s the best one. Nothing comes close. … When a black dude sees a magic trick his mind explodes. … When a black dude sees a magic trick, for a few moments he thinks it’s real — like there’s a sorcerer on earth. … They have to reassess existence from the ground up. … That’s a beautiful way to treat things in life that you don’t understand. Do you realize how much better the world would be if we all just treated each other the way black dudes treat magicians?

What would have happened if a white standup comedian made the exact same joke about black men? How would his career fare after essentially saying to a crowd in Philadelphia that the minds of all black men haven’t developed enough to comprehend magic tricks?

Who is more strange: the guy who believes that society should hold a special reverence for the union of man and a woman, or the comedian who sees nothing wrong with trying to get laughs from child molestation jokes?

I would be worried constantly if I had a kid. I think about how much my mom let me run around as a kid. … Ten years old running around by myself … I should have been getting molested all the time. Like, I don’t know how it never happened. Not even once. Not even once! Keep in mind I was the cutest kid of all time.

Like, take the most adorable, little brown puppy you can imagine, turn that into a person — that was me as a kid. I mean, who wouldn’t be trying to fuck that? Just an unbelievable level of cuteness.  My theory is that I was so cute as a kid that it intimidated child molesters. Like for child molesters I was kind of like the hot girl at the bar. They’re like: “Oh my God! Aziz is here! Aziz is here! Aziz is here! [exhales] Okay, you can do this. You can do this. Just be yourself. Just be yourself. Confidence. Kids like confidence. Let’s do that.

[Imitating a child molester] “Hi Aziz! [stammering] That’s a, that’s a cool…uh…ha…ha…that’s a great…all right, well, see you later. [Talking to himself] Ah! You’re so stupid. You didn’t even say anything! Who am I kidding, anyway? This is Aziz we’re talking about. He can fuck any grown man he wants.”

Bravo, Mr. Ansari. You were able to look in the mirror one morning and say to yourself: “What the world needs right now is a man who is courageous enough to joke that his looks were once worthy of a child molester’s abuse.”

The icing on the cake is Ansari’s take on arranged marriages.

A lot of people in India still have arranged marriages. My dad had an arranged marriage. It was to my mom. That’s how they arranged it. And it’s interesting. Whenever I tell people that they’re always like “Oh my God. Is everything okay? Do they hate each other?” And they only ask that because it’s an arranged marriage. Those questions are totally valid for any marriage. … I read a little bit about arranged marriage. I’ve read some research and stuff they’ve done. Very interesting. I found this study they did where they took couples that had arranged marriages and they took couples that had non-arranged marriages and they measured their happiness levels. In the first three-to-five years non-arranged couples were happier. But, when I looked at it 25-30 years down the line the arranged couples were happier. So, who knows? I don’t know.

Actually, Westerners ask that question because arranged marriages and dowry have a well known history, Mr. Ansari — and some of the stories are not pretty.

Ms. [Preeti] Dhaka’s training as one of the capital’s nearly 1,000 female investigators couldn’t insulate her from Indian traditions that often conspire against laws meant to enforce women’s rights. After a day of protest duty on New Year’s Eve, she wrote a despairing note: Her new husband, unhappy that her dowry hadn’t included a car, “tried to motivate me to die.” …

Pressuring a bride or her family for wedding gifts is against a 1961 law passed in an effort to end dowry abuses. The dowry tradition persists, with a woman’s family often giving lavish gifts to her fiancé’s family.

Dowry disputes remain a prevalent cause of violence against women, usually by husbands or in-laws who think a dowry was too small. According to government crime statistics, nearly one woman was killed every hour in India last year over dowries. In Delhi, “dowry comes a lot” in police complaints by women, says Ms. Insan. “In the village, the girls don’t come forward. They prefer to protect the home.”

But hey, Mr. Ansari “doesn’t know” where he comes down on arranged marriages. He just knows that it’s incredibly lucrative to perpetuate the poisonous stereotypes of the sex-crazed gay man and intellectually inferior blacks. Do it enough, and you even get to meet the first black president. Let’s all give Aziz Ansari a round of applause.