By now, most sports fans have heard about Texas high school football coach Tim Buchanan, who faces a “bullying” charge because his football team … plays football really well.
A parent of a Texas high school football player whose team ended up on the wrong end of a 91-0 rout has filed a bullying report against the winning team’s head coach, according to the Fort Worth Star-Telegram.
Aledo coach Tim Buchanan said he received notice that a bullying report had been filed against him by a parent of an opposing player following the Bearcats’ 91-0 win over Fort Worth Western Hills on Friday.
Aledo, a three-time Class 4A state champion, is ranked No. 1 in The Associated Press statewide poll. The Bearcats have outscored their opponents by an average of 77 points in each of their four district games, including 84-7 wins over Fort Worth Arlington Heights and Fort Worth Wyatt.
In this case, Mr. Buchanan should wear his “bullying” accusation like a badge of honor. He should hold a press conference and ask why the parent who filed the complaint isn’t thanking him instead for teaching the losing team a valuable lesson: There is always someone bigger, faster, smarter and stronger than you.
When I was a freshman in high school, I was one of the lightest wrestlers on the team. One day the coaches needed someone to practice with the lightest varsity guy, and I got the call. For over an hour I was repeatedly thrown to the ground. Over and over and over and over again I was flipped, pinned, thrown, twisted, smashed and thoroughly embarrassed by “Frankie.” I wrestled in silence with tears streaming down my face because quitting wasn’t an option, but neither was ending the physical pain. My opponent showed me no mercy, but at the end of the day he shook my hand, gave me a pat on the back and let me know he appreciated the effort. I was handily beaten. I was humbled. I became a better wrestler — and person — for it.
Every kid needs to know that in the real world, they will sometimes lose. They will occasionally be faced with insurmountable obstacles and they will be crushed by a superior opponent. So the question becomes: How do you respond to failure? Do you sulk in the corner and complain that the world is an unfair playground filled with “bullies,” or do you figure out a way to make yourself bigger, faster, stronger and smarter?
The parent who filed a bullying complaint against Mr. Buchanan should be ashamed of themselves. Growing up, every kid who plays sports has days when they’re a hero and days when they’re the goat. In the real world, your competitors do not take a knee and let you score to save your self esteem. The truth is, they will steamroll you and not think twice about how it will hurt your feelings. Putting kids in intellectual bubble wrap from the realities of the world outside the parental nest sets them up for failure. I feel bad for the kid whose mom or dad filed this bullying report, because his home life is probably incredibly sheltered.
Perhaps one of the best ways it’s ever been put was by Sylvester Stallone in 2006’s ‘Rocky Balboa.’
“The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are — it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me or nobody is going to hit as hard as life. It ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take, and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now if you know what you’re then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits. And not point fingers and say you’re not where you want to be because of him, or her or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that!” (Sylvester Stallone as Rocky Balboa)
Three cheers for Tim Buchanan. He taught the losing team a valuable lesson, even if they don’t realize it yet.